Working on his focus....

Michael is VERY well behaved at Mass. Whether it be a quick daily Mass, or a longer Sunday Mass, he measures up to anyone's standards of good behavior almost all the time. He knows all the words (even the priest's, and he sometimes tries to compete with him!), he sings the songs (even tries to learn the responsorial psalm each day), he kneels when it's time to kneel, and prayers for his friends and family after communion.

But sometimes, especially on Sundays when the promise of donuts after Mass weighs heavily on his mind, he can lose focus.

Today, a few minutes before Mass ended, he turned to me and very loudly whispered, "Mommy! We're gonna get donuts after Mass, ok? Sounds like a good idea?"

So, don't let his piety fool you all the time, like the rest of us, his mind sometimes wanders to more earthly treasures...

Excitement for the Day

* Alternative title: My husband is abounding in Fortitude

This afternoon we went to one of our friend's birthday party. She just turned 1. She is one of Michael and Matthew's closest friends and they love little Clare so much. We had a great party and all the little kids (ours included, thankfully!) behaved perfectly!

After the party was done, it was getting close to dinner time and I was kind of tired so we decided to do a little drive-thru to give me a break.

Wouldn't you know, I just so happen to think we were in the right place at the right time because when we got in line, we noticed the lady in front of us was driving a little erratically in the drive-thru lane!. (Yeah, it's bad when you can't even drive straight at 1mph in a drive-thru lane).

So, after she hit the drive-thru sign indicating where the entrance is to the lane nearly hit us as she backed up to correct herself, tried 2 more times to get it right....and then bumped the car in front of her...we knew this was not just something we could let go.

Michael got out of the car, talked to the drive-thru window guy taking the money, talked to the guy who got bumped, and talked to the lady (all in the drive-thru lane mind you!), he got back in the car. The lady in front of us pulled forward to pay for her order, but couldn't even orient her car properly to pay. She hit the curb coming in at such a weird angle and then scraped her car as she pulled forward again.

The drive-thru guy, at Michael's request, told his manager, but wasn't able/willing to do more about the situation than just laugh and say, "Boy! Did you see her, she couldn't even drive straight!" So, this is perplexing...imagining this woman driving on the road where, as Michael put, things are actually moving...because as it is she's hitting things that are stationary. So at that point, we called 911. We had a good position to give the license plate and what-not, but time was running out because she was next in line to get her food!

So Michael got out of the car, I took the driver's seat, and then, with police on the way, Michael insisted that she not get on the road, after she got her food, Michael stood between her car and the road and directed her to a parking space while we waited for the cops.

Fortunately, an officer was one block away so he was there immediately, like, by the time I was done getting our food. So he found Michael, and then questioned the lady. In about 2 minutes, two more officers were there. Way to go San Diego police!

They talked with her for a few minutes, and asked us to wait. They took our information and kept that lady hanging on for quite some time but let us go home and eat dinner. They called us later to get our full statement.

The officer said he smelled alcohol on her breath and she admitted to having "a little Chardonnay" earlier in the afternoon. The officer said, "It seems like she's done this routine before with the police."

Anyways, that's our excitement for the day. We are grateful that we were where we were so we could do our part to keep this lady off the road and hopefully from hurting herself, her foreign-exchange student from Japan passenger, or someone else.

My thoughts on it all:
1) Michael has so much fortitude. He wasn't going to let this go or allow this to be someone else's responsibility. He knew the stakes were high and did everything he could to make sure she wasn't going on the road.
2) I'm glad it was a lady. I think drunk ladies probably are different than drunk guys. I didn't want a confrontation with Michael, and I think that would be more likely to happen with a man.
3) I wish the restaurant were more proactive. They didn't really seem to care.
4) Michael could have gotten hurt. She could have run him over trying to get away, or anything. He knew it was his responsibility to stop her even taking a risk. I'm glad all guardian angels involved (his, hers and the passenger) helped her be docile to Michael's "commands", pull off and wait for the police.
5). The police officers were great.
6) The gift of fortitude is both something from God (one of the gifts of the Holy Spirit!) but also requires the will to comply and practice. I've never known Michael do avoid doing something right because he was afraid of the consequences. He has lived a life of fortitude and knowing that makes me love him more and more and admire him as a father, especially to teach our boys such virtues.

"Stee"

Kids are great at inventing words.

Of course, in our family, we don't even think twice about the fact that "Gak" Michael's word for hot chocolate, is something we hear everyday...."Gak" is a totally made-up word, really has nothing to do with hot chocolate, and quite frankly, sounds a little disgusting. But, that's how it is. This is Michael's word for his favorite drink which really functions like most people's coffee. He can't really start his day without it, and since it seems like the only way to get milk in his system, I'm fine with it.

And Matthew is not less talented at making up words and making them part of the family vocabulary.

Meet "Stee."



It's a red helicopter. The most coveted toy in our home. So coveted, Michael went to the store to buy a second one, but of course that one mysteriously disappeared so we are back to the battle of the red "Stee."

I don't know why Matthew calls it "stee" but he is determined that this is what heliciopters are. When he sees one in the sky, he yells "STEEEE!!!! STEEEEE!!"

Michael Jr has now adopted the word and so it is falling into common usage in the home.

Each helicopter in the home has its own name: Brown Stee, White Stee, the coveted Red Stee, Yellow Stee and Green Stee. Michael can clearly articulate which one he wants, but Matthew uses syllables to describe each stee that is particular to each color. I suppose it takes a mother's ear, but the funny thing is, I know what he means.

At some point, we will have to correct it, but goodness, it's so darn cute the way they say it and that it's something that we'll remember long after they outgrow it.

In the meantime, next time you see a helicopter, feel free to call say it loud and proud: "STEEEE!!!"

Favorite Foods

Michael and Matthew's eating habits really couldn't be more different.

It's hard to think of Michael's favorite food (as in main course) because something he gobbles up one meal, he'll refuse the next (though after a few minutes of pondering, we did note one exception to this rule being my dad's steak dubbed "Poppi's steak."

It's hard to think of Matthew's favorite food, because he gobbles so many foods up with so much enthusiasm, it's hard to know what is his favorite. You know, what do I prepare for birthdays and feast days that he will like especially? Pasta? Steak? Quesadillas? Lasagna? Hamburgers? Matthew loves all of these with almost equal fervor I don't know what his "favorite" is.

Perhaps Matthew is far less selective because I started him on a wider of variety of flavors sooner. Matthew, maybe once or twice ate anything with the name "Gerber" on it. Mostly, we just mashed or blended up whatever we were having very early on. Even the fruits I made him were hand-prepared so they had a much less processed texture, probably making him more open to different things.

They both eat well enough. They both love fruits and veggies and by the end of the day, they get enough protein that I'm satisfied. Carbs aren't even a question (except Michael hates potatoes that are not in the form of a chip or french fry. Super-healthy, I know!). However, I wish I could see Michael becoming a little more adventurous in terms of his likes. He is very quick to turn his nose up at the things outside his regular rotation of food. He won't do soups, I really have to work to get him to eat a sandwich (that's not a hamburger or grilled cheese (again, super healthy, huh). Thankfully, we recently discovered his love of peanut butter which is among the few things for which he'll ask for seconds.

Fortunately, I very early on realized (thanks again, Baby Whisperer!) how much eating for him can be a power struggle as much as it can be for nourishment. Michael likes control. He doesn't want me to have control, and he know that what goes in his mouth is something he ultimately has control over. I definitely don't stress out over it since I've seen him eat hardly anything, go to bed, and still wake up at the regular time in the morning and not complain about how famished he is....and I've seen him eat more food in one sitting than I often see him eat in a whole day. I know it all works out. He knows how to ask for a snack in between meals, and he knows that he gets more of what he likes if he at least attempts something he would rather not eat at the moment.

I guess I just would love to see him one day say, "What's for dinner, Mom?" and me announce some entree' and have him be really excited about it, eat it eagerly, and want seconds. I wish I felt more comfortable experimenting and introducing new foods without just knowing he won't even be remotely interested. Even though I know he's fine and won't starve (especially because he gets side dishes each meal so at least he'll eat something), it's kind of deflating to prepare a meal and have someone not even want to try it!

Maybe it's just a toddler thing, but as July inches closer and I'm starting to think of a great birthday menu, aside from getting my dad to come down and cook him up a juicy steak...what's going to make a great meal for Michael? And while November is still quite some time away, I don't even know where to begin narrowing down Matthew's menu to his *favorite* foods.

These two boys....I really wonder if they could possibly be any more different!

I love this kid...

He's Getting So Big!

My little Matthew....why are you doing this to me?

Please stop getting so big!

Ok. Well, the pacifier helps make you look a little younger. Thanks.

Matthew is getting bigger and bigger each day. He finally got a third tooth this week....his walking is getting better and better and I often find him standing in the middle of the room looking around waiting for lots of and lots of praise for walking like a big boy (which he gets, of course).

His vocabulary includes:

Mama
Daddy
Ducky
Birdie
Cheese
"T" (as in the letter..he likes that letter, it's his favorite)
Star
Moon
Matthew
"pray for us!"
"Brush you teeth"
Kitty
Doggie
Please
Thank you
More Water
Milk
Shoes

I think I've left a few things out...but it gives you a good idea. He's a babbler with a very high little voice that suits his personality.

He's a little lovebug, often giving kisses to whoever he can. His kisses usually consist of going up to his intended object of affection and butting it with his head and saying in a prolonged way, "N-n-n-n-nuh!" He loves kisses his brother, especially while Michael is helpless during a diaper change.

Matthew is a hearty eater of the highest order. He is rarely ever picky and seems to take to devouring his food with a degree of seriousness. Like it's his job. Meanwhile his brother dilly-dallies during most meals, stalling as long as possible.



Matthew is just a little sweetheart. He's sensitive, yet determined and can be a bit whiny at times. But that doesn't diminish his cuteness (well, maybe for a few minutes it does). Matthew continues to be an excellent sleeper and a steady napper, unless his brother who has nearly giving up the practice entirely.



Our little Moo. What a gift!

Are You My Mother?

Michael and I were reading this book before his naptime.

I asked him, "Do you have a mother?"

"Yes" he replied.

"Who is your mother?" I asked.

"Daddy."

:/